Allison Castillo: Who among us hasn’t finally met the man our friend has been raving about and just liked him so intensely that we prayed Ashton Kutcher would jump out from behind the manquette to put us out of our misery. In short, you hate your friend’s boyfriend. But coming clean with this dirty little secret can be risky. According to Your tango.com, when Tara Joyce did just that, her friend not only stayed with him in under minor competence, but continued to relate the hurtful things you did. Jennifer Carlton, author of the relationship book, don’t use my sweater like a towel takes a hard land on this. Once you tell a friend her boyfriend s bad news and she stays with him, she looses the privilege to mend about him, but Carlton also reminds us that attraction is mysterious and that physical chemistry can often overwhelm good sense. Ultimately, it’s up to our friends who’s good for them and maybe up to us to swallow our feelings along with the three martini’s it takes to get through an evening with her boyfriend.