Audra: It’s a new year, it’s a new you so why not take matters of the heart into your own
hands and just make love happen. Better relationship experts, Matt Titus and
Tamsen Fadal are here with three ways to approach a potential object of affection.
Tamsen: Hey everybody, it’s definitely an exciting time, a new year. We’re here at Havana
Central, a very cool restaurant in Times Square where I’m sure a lot of romantic
dinners go on. So let’s talk about 2010.
Matt: It’s a new year, it’s a new you and it’s time to take action and actually be strategic
about your love life, got to have a plan. So, the first thing I want every guy out
there to do is again not be afraid to approach a woman. You got to man up and
you got to make love happen. So if you want to be efficient, it’s smart about it. So
no cheesy pick up lines. I used to be a little cheesy, but I’ve changed.
Tamsen: You did like horoscope signs.
Matt: But you know, honestly, nothing like “must be missing an angel” or “how are
yah?” or anything about auras and you know, “you’re so beautiful.” Simply walk
up to a woman that you think is attractive and introduce yourself. Like, “Hey, I
thought I’d go up and say hi. My name is Matt, what’s your name?”
Tamsen: I’m married, I’m sorry.
Matt: See, she’s trained. She knows exactly what to say. But honestly, it’s okay, even if
you do that and the women are married, you didn’t know. I want everybody to be
really confident and not worry about the reaction of the person that you’re
approaching because, you know what, they are stranger and it doesn’t matter.
Tamsen: Yeah, I really agree with that. And also, when it comes to men approaching, but
women, you can go the same thing, there is nothing wrong with going up to a guy
and approaching him and saying something really honest. I’m not big into making
something up like “do I know you from somewhere?” or this or that. I think you
can say something like “Hey, I like your watch,” “this suits really cool,” “you
look like my brother.” Whatever the situation is, just be honest about it because
you really have nothing to lose.
Matt: And the big thing about this is that a lot of women don’t usually approach men.
And it, is to me, if I’m a secure guy and she walks up to me, I’m the happiest men
on earth and I’ll never going to forget her, because again it doesn’t happen that
often.
Tamsen: Yup, and finally just to sum it up, you know, it is a new year but it certainly is
okay to be single. I’d say you have to remember I think you’ve got to be okay
with where you are and then that’s when you’re really got to find what you’re
looking for.
Matt: The highest level of confidence start when you’re secure with yourself. For
instance, look it’s hard to stay in shape, we all know that, but you should beat
your physical best because that makes you feel good and again, I said this before
and I’ll say it again, don’t be so concerned with what the reaction is to a stranger
that you’re approaching. Okay, just make love happen, go out and do it.
Tamsen: Alright, folks, until next time.