How do we find our personality needs using the Enneagram?
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Host: Is there a test that will tell me which Enneagram type I am? Chris Wright: So, we are looking here at the Enneagram personality system because it’s going to reveal force what our core needs are for us in this relationship and so for being able to determine, which type I am. There’s no test in the Enneagram there’s no teacher of the Enneagram, it’s sort of self evident knowledge. Some people have created complex tests on the Internet, but my own personal experience is, is as much as 80% of people take those test that leads them in a wrong direction and so it could actually not find out what type you are. And so I’ve come up with what I’ve found to be nine simple statements, each one captures what the essence is of each of the types and I read through these nine statements and you can see which one sounds like it might be you. We will just start with that from the beginning. So, select the statement that best fits you most. I tend to be a person who one notices details and work hard to have things done right. Number two; I am giver or supporter in my relationships. Number three; I am a person who is highly motivated to success. Number four; I am a person who seems to be different from others. I’m more of a creative, emotional type. Five, I tend to be a thinker, very rational. I also value my space. Six, I tend to be a person who is very responsible. I’m hardworking and dependable and when I read through these different statements, I can try to see myself in most all of them. Seven, I am a person who really enjoys life. I tend to be happy, optimistic and relish new and different experiences. Eight, I am a person who is confident and direct with people. I value honesty; I don t shirk away from confrontation. Nine, I tend to be easy going and go with the flow, also avoid conflicts and may tend to procrastinate a little bit. So, look and see through those nine and see which one seems like it might most relate to you and let’s just begin with that. As we go through each of the different types, you can see which one really more fits who you are. There is one other thing to point out here, you are born one of these nine types but you have influences from other types potentially that you could experience needs of these other four types in your type as well. They call the wings and the lines. The wings are the number before yours and the after yours, so if you are at 1 the number before would be you 9 and the number after would be you 2. If you are 5, the number before a 4 wing and number after would be you a 6 wing. There are also two lines one has a line it goes to 7 one has a line it goes to 4. And so, what you are going to look to see is, you are born one of these types but you could have other needs that are particularly important to you in your personality from either your wings or your lines and so as we go through each of the different types I want you at least to see are there any of qualities or needs from these wings or a line that I also have in my personality. So, you are going to end up with a composite of needs that show up in every facet of your personality.